This or That Questions for Couples

This or that questions about nights out

1. 1.Dinner and a movie or dinner and a walk?
2. 2.Fancy restaurant or food truck?
3. 3.Outdoor concert or small jazz club?
4. 4.Picnic or rooftop dinner?
5. 5.Arcade or pool hall?
6. 6.Museum or aquarium?
7. 7.Cooking together or ordering in?
8. 8.Watching the sunrise or watching the sunset?
9. 9.Board game or card game?
10. 10.Dancing or karaoke?
11. 11.Antique shop or bookstore?
12. 12.Pottery class or dance lesson?
13. 13.Drive-in movie or movie theater?
14. 14.Stargazing or city lights?
15. 15.Brunch or late-night dessert?
16. 16.Live music or quiet cafe?
17. 17.Cooking class or painting class?
18. 18.Beach day or park day?
19. 19.County fair or night market?
20. 20.Escape room or trivia night?

This or that questions about home

1. 21.Cozy blanket or cool sheets?
2. 22.Big couch or comfy bed?
3. 23.Candles or string lights?
4. 24.Tidy shelves or cozy clutter?
5. 25.Doing the cooking or doing the cleanup?
6. 26.Warm room or cool room?
7. 27.Big TV or wall of books?
8. 28.Home gym or home office?
9. 29.Backyard garden or balcony garden?
10. 30.Open kitchen or cozy kitchen?
11. 31.City apartment or country house?
12. 32.Weighted blanket or electric blanket?
13. 33.Window seat or reading nook?
14. 34.Dishwasher or washing by hand?
15. 35.Fresh flowers or potted plants?
16. 36.Weekly cleaning day or a little every day?
17. 37.Matching mugs or mismatched mugs?
18. 38.Breakfast in bed or breakfast at a diner?
19. 39.Neutral colors or bold colors?
20. 40.Lots of pillows or just one pillow?

This or that questions about everyday habits

1. 41.Long voice notes or quick texts?
2. 42.Early to the airport or right on time?
3. 43.Plan ahead or go with the flow?
4. 44.Paper map or phone map?
5. 45.To-do list or memory?
6. 46.Save the best bite for last or eat the best bite first?
7. 47.Podcast or music?
8. 48.Window open or window closed?
9. 49.Socks in bed or no socks in bed?
10. 50.One alarm or five alarms?
11. 51.Read the book or watch the movie?
12. 52.Sweet breakfast or savory breakfast?
13. 53.Hot coffee or iced coffee?
14. 54.Walking or biking?
15. 55.Handwritten note or voice message?
16. 56.Photos on the wall or photos on the phone?
17. 57.Spoilers or surprises?
18. 58.Big laugh or quiet chuckle?
19. 59.Birthday party or birthday trip?
20. 60.Remembering dates or remembering details?

This or that questions about travel

1. 61.Road trip or flight?
2. 62.Hotel or cabin?
3. 63.Packed itinerary or no plans?
4. 64.Souvenirs or photos?
5. 65.City break or nature retreat?
6. 66.Tropical island or snowy village?
7. 67.Train or ferry?
8. 68.Backpack or suitcase?
9. 69.Street food or fancy dinner?
10. 70.Famous sights or hidden gems?
11. 71.Guided tour or wandering on your own?
12. 72.Camping or glamping?
13. 73.Weekend away or two weeks away?
14. 74.Same place every year or new place every year?
15. 75.Sunrise hike or sunset cruise?
16. 76.Travel journal or travel video?
17. 77.Local market or shopping mall?
18. 78.Hot spring or waterfall?
19. 79.Early flight or red-eye flight?
20. 80.Postcards or group chat updates?

Fun this or that questions for couples

1. 81.Superhero duo or detective duo?
2. 82.Matching costumes or surprise costumes?
3. 83.Cooking show or travel show?
4. 84.Board games or video games?
5. 85.Singing together or dancing together?
6. 86.Inside jokes or pet names?
7. 87.Treehouse or houseboat?
8. 88.Llama or alpaca?
9. 89.Pancake art or latte art?
10. 90.Comedy or romance movie?
11. 91.Jigsaw puzzle or crossword?
12. 92.New hobby together or separate hobbies?
13. 93.Pillow fort or camping in the living room?
14. 94.Trip to the past or trip to the future?
15. 95.Theme song or catchphrase?
16. 96.Famous together or secret talent?
17. 97.Game show or reality show?
18. 98.Handmade gift or store-bought gift?
19. 99.Small surprise every week or big surprise once a year?
20. 100.Slow dance or silly dance?

How to play this or that as a couple

This or that is the fastest question game there is. Read the two options, and both answer on three. No explaining unless you want to. A round of twenty cards takes about five minutes, so it fits into a coffee break, a car ride or the wait for dinner.

Play the list right here on one phone, one card at a time. The rules and more categories are on the this or that page.

Guess your partner's answer first

The best way to play with two: before your partner answers, guess what they'll pick. Say your guess out loud, then let them answer. One point for every right guess, and switch roles after each card.

• Habits is the easiest group to guess. You've seen these every day.
• Travel and Fun picks are where couples disagree the most.
• Play the same group again in a few months and see if your score goes up.

It sounds simple, but it's a surprisingly good way to learn the small things: which breakfast they'd really pick, how many alarms they actually set, and whether they'd rather see the famous sights or the hidden gems.

With other couples, play it like a quiz show: each couple answers the same card, and the pair with the most matching answers after twenty cards picks dinner or the next game.

More games for two

When you want longer answers, switch to get to know you questions for couples or would you rather questions for couples. For a whole night in, the games for two page has ideas from drawing games to word puzzles.

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