Get to Know You Questions for Couples

Questions about your story together

1. 1.What's one moment from our first year together that you still think about?
2. 2.Where were we the first time you laughed until you cried with me?
3. 3.What song reminds you of us, and why?
4. 4.What's the best trip we've taken so far?
5. 5.Which photo of us is your favorite?
6. 6.What's something I did early on that surprised you?
7. 7.What's a little tradition we started without meaning to?
8. 8.What's the funniest disagreement we've ever had?
9. 9.When did you first feel like we were a team?
10. 10.What meal reminds you of us?
11. 11.What's the most adventurous thing we've done together?
12. 12.What part of our story would you tell a stranger?
13. 13.What did you think the first time you saw where I lived?
14. 14.What's a gift from me you still keep?
15. 15.Which day with me would you love to live again?
16. 16.Which friend knew we'd work out before we did?
17. 17.What's the best surprise I've ever planned for you?
18. 18.What did you think when you first met my family?
19. 19.What's our best inside joke, and how did it start?
20. 20.When were you really proud of us?

Questions about everyday life together

1. 21.What's your favorite part of an ordinary day with me?
2. 22.Which chore do you secretly not mind doing for us?
3. 23.What's the best way to cheer you up after a long day?
4. 24.What do I do that always makes you laugh?
5. 25.What's your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday together?
6. 26.What's a habit of mine you've picked up?
7. 27.What's something I do that makes you feel cared for?
8. 28.Which of my cooking experiments was your favorite?
9. 29.What's one thing you'd change about our mornings?
10. 30.How can I show you I'm thinking of you during the day?
11. 31.What's one thing we should do more often?
12. 32.What's a habit we could drop to have more time together?
13. 33.What's your favorite thing about our home?
14. 34.Which show should we start together next?
15. 35.What do you wish I asked you about more often?
16. 36.How do you like to be supported when you're stressed?
17. 37.What's the best small surprise for a random Tuesday?
18. 38.What's your favorite way to make up after a disagreement?
19. 39.What's something you love that we haven't done together yet?
20. 40.What's the best evening we've had at home?

Questions about your dreams and future

1. 41.Where would you like us to be in five years?
2. 42.What's a place you want us to visit together?
3. 43.What skill would you love for us to learn together?
4. 44.What does a perfect weekend look like for us in ten years?
5. 45.What tradition would you love for us to start?
6. 46.If we could live anywhere for a year, where would you pick?
7. 47.What's a goal of yours I can help with this year?
8. 48.What do you want to celebrate this year?
9. 49.What kind of home do you picture for us someday?
10. 50.What adventure should go on our list?
11. 51.If we wrote a bucket list together, what would be first?
12. 52.What would you love for us to build or make together?
13. 53.What challenge do you think we'd be great at together?
14. 54.What's one thing you hope never changes about us?
15. 55.What would your dream anniversary look like?
16. 56.What hobby would you try if I joined you?
17. 57.How do you picture our holidays in the future?
18. 58.What's a big decision you'd like us to think about together?
19. 59.What would you like us to save up for?
20. 60.What's a dream you haven't told me about yet?

Questions about your favorite things

1. 61.What's your favorite memory from when you were little?
2. 62.What's your all-time favorite movie, and why?
3. 63.What's your favorite smell in the world?
4. 64.Which song would you pick as the soundtrack of your life?
5. 65.What's your favorite meal that I make?
6. 66.What's your favorite season, and what do you love about it?
7. 67.What's your comfort food after a hard day?
8. 68.What's your favorite way to spend a rainy day?
9. 69.What's the favorite place you've ever lived?
10. 70.Which book changed the way you think?
11. 71.What's your favorite thing about yourself?
12. 72.What's your favorite holiday tradition from growing up?
13. 73.How do you most like to celebrate your birthday?
14. 74.What's your favorite thing to do outdoors?
15. 75.What's the best compliment you've ever received?
16. 76.What's your favorite weather for a long walk?
17. 77.What's your favorite game to play together?
18. 78.What's your favorite photo of yourself as a kid?
19. 79.What's your favorite little luxury?
20. 80.What do you like most about our friends?

Deeper questions for couples

1. 81.What's something you've changed your mind about since we met?
2. 82.What are you most grateful for right now?
3. 83.What's a fear you'd like to get past?
4. 84.When do you feel most like yourself?
5. 85.What are you still learning about yourself?
6. 86.What does a good apology look like to you?
7. 87.What's one lesson from your family you want to keep?
8. 88.What's one lesson you'd like to unlearn?
9. 89.What makes you feel truly heard?
10. 90.What do you wish more people knew about you?
11. 91.What's the bravest thing you've ever done?
12. 92.How do you like to recharge when you're tired?
13. 93.What moment changed the direction of your life?
14. 94.What does home mean to you?
15. 95.What's a value you'd never give up?
16. 96.What compliment do you find hard to accept?
17. 97.What are you proud of that you rarely talk about?
18. 98.What do you need more of in your life right now?
19. 99.How have we changed each other?
20. 100.What question have you always wanted me to ask you?

How to use these questions

Pick a group, open the first card and take turns answering. There's no score and no right answer. The only rule is to ask one follow-up question before you move on, because the follow-up is where the real conversation starts.

Our story and Everyday are easy openers. Dreams and Favorites are good for a long dinner. Save Deeper for a quiet evening when neither of you is in a hurry. The full game, with more categories, is on the get to know you questions page.

For new couples and long-term couples

If you've only been together a few months, start with Favorites and Dreams. They're light, and you'll learn a lot without either of you feeling put on the spot.

If you've been together for years, try Our story and Deeper. It's easy to stop asking questions when you think you already know the answers, and these cards are a nice reminder that you probably don't know all of them yet.

• Put the phones away except the one with the questions.
• Skip any card that doesn't feel right. There are plenty more.
• Come back to the same group in a year and see how the answers change.

More questions for two

For something more playful, try would you rather questions for couples or this or that questions for couples. The games for two page has more ideas for a night in.

A good mix for a long evening: start with ten quick this or that cards to warm up, move on to one group of these questions over dinner, and finish with a silly game like Draw & Guess when you want to laugh again.

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